24 January 2012

Common Mistakes Men Make With Women

Do you always find the pair of four inch heels running away from you ? Have you always been wondering what goes wrong ? Have you not been able to find the perfect woman for you ? If you answered yes to any of these questions then this article is for you . Here are some common mistakes men make with women .

1. Choosing a woman based on beauty alone

This is the a common mistake committed by almost all men. True,it is difficult to look past the attractiveness. However, it is important to remember that in due course of time, beauty fades. Then it is the other factors like compatibility, intellectual ability etc. that matter. There surely has to be a proper blend if you don’t want to be caught with a bimbo for the rest of your life.

2. Do not try to be best friend

It very rarely happens that, women get attracted to their best friends. A woman wouldn’t date a guy merely on the basis of how understanding he is. It is the degree of attraction that counts. So quit being so available for her, that she takes you for granted. Yes it is important that she feels comfortable in your company, but that does not mean she begins to treat you like one of her girlfriends.

3. Hot temper and violent behavior

This can instantly scare off women. In fact, you should use this when you want to get rid of a clingy date. Actions like being rude to the waiter or cab driver or getting involved in unnecessary fights with random people is the signature of a narcissistic creep.

4. Sharing intimate details with her too soon:

You don’t need to tell her why you broke up with you ex-girlfriend on the first date. Neither do you have to tell her how much you are attracted to her. It is always good to go slow in relationships. As far as sharing intimate details are concerned, it should be done at a much later stage. This will not only build her interest in you, but she will also begin to look forward to trying to getting to know you.

5. Letting them take total control:

Women would naturally want to be with someone with who she can feel secure. Whatever happens don’t let her take total charge of any situation. Show it to her, that you are man enough to look after things. She will respect you and magnetically get attracted to you.

6. Being bossy and dominating:

Yes it is important to learn to take charge, however that does not mean that you go about dominating her all the time. Let her take her own decisions. Advice her only when you’re asked for it. Women hate to be bossed around. They look out for a man, with who they can be themselves. Hence, make sure you accept her just the way she is.

7. Being self-obsessed:

This can be a big turn-off for any woman.No matter how good looking, self-obsession is a trait of the unsecured. Habits like constantly being bothered about your looks, checking out your reflection even in a spoon, being a constant shopaholic, etc will give her the feeling that she is with one of her girlfriends.

8. Corny pick up lines:

This is another instant turn-off. Pick-up lines can be cute among lovers. However, when you are using them to try to get to know somebody they are a strict no-no. Most of the time they are ineffective. There are chances that she may pick the wrong signal, thus subtracting any chance you might have had with her. Instead, just ask a common friend to introduce the two of you.

9. Bragging about yourself:

There is a very thin line between telling her about your achievements and bragging about them. Women hate braggers. They find them stupid and annoying. Instead, just tell her about yourself. As far as your achievements are concerned, let her find them out herself. She will appreciate your modesty.

10. Showering her with gifts:

Big mistake! It is the signature of a person plagued by insecurity and foolishness. When you do this; you are indirectly sending her the message saying that, you are so insecure about yourself and hence you need to buy gifts in order to get her attracted to you. You may look like a desperate person, trying so hard to get into a relationship.

These are some of the most common mistakes that men tend to repeat over and over again , but in different ways . Avoid these mistakes to have a happy relationship ! =)

Will a Long Distant Relationship Work For You ?

Before deciding on whether your long distant relationship will work or not , there are some things that you should know about . Long distance relationships are difficult , but like everything else , they have both their pros and cons . And I am the one who in long distance relationship .

Pros 

1. Value Every Moment Spent With Each Other

When you are miles away from each other, you tend to miss each other a lot. Due to this, every moment spent with one other is actually valued. It also makes you realize the importance of your partner in your life. This is an advantage that is not found in people who live with each other. Since, the time you get to spend with each other is limited; every date tends to be a memorable and special experience.

2. Space and Independence

Since it is long distance, you get all the space and independence that other couples don’t seem to get. You have time to spend with yourself. Take this as an opportunity for the generation of a new hobby. You also get more time to concentrate on your ambitions and goals in life.

3. Improve Your Bonding With others

Many times, when in a relationship, couples find it hard to find time for their families and friends. Long distance relationships give you a lot of time to spend with both your families and friends. You don’t need to constantly juggle your time between your partner and the rest of the world.

4. The Distance Brings you Closer

If the bond between a couple is strong, the distance can actually work wonders for the relationship. When you meet every day, you tend to take each other for granted. But, when it is long distance, it will make you realize the other person’s importance in your life.

Cons

1. Loss/ absence of Closeness and Intimacy
Long distance relationships can take the level of closeness and intimacy away from couples. You have to be prepared that, you may not even get to hug your partner for months or sometimes years.

2. Less Economical

Long distance relationships can be really expensive. Traveling often to visit your loved one may cause you to shell out loads of money. Then again, long distance calls are expensive. Finance is one aspect that you will have to constantly monitor.

3. Inability to be there for each other all the time

Most of the time, you cannot expect your partner to be there physically present for you. Sometimes, days may pass when you really need them by your side but the situation will not permit.

4. Difficult to keep the romance alive
At some point in time, continuous phone calls and emails also can get tedious. You may long for the feeling of having your loved one right next to you. Talking on the phone or by some other source of communication cannot be half the fun as talking in person.

5. Involves Lot of Risk
Communicating through sources of media can be very misguiding and can lead to lots of misunderstanding among partners. Absence of physical presence can also lead to difficulty in understanding. Hence, there is always a lot of pressure involved. Even a slight misunderstanding can lead to spoiling the bond that the two of you share.

6. Difficult to Trust

When you are in a long distant relationship it is so easy to lie. All you can do is believe every word they are saying. It may be easy to trust in the beginning. However, as time passes it will get more difficult. Even certain negligence on the part of your partner can lead to you doubting them and vice-versa.

7. Inability To Understand Each Other Better

Talking over the phone or even video conferencing may not always be as effective as meeting personally. It can, comparatively take a lot of time to understand each other’s habits and lifestyle.

8. Chances Of Getting Used To Living Without Each Other

You may miss a person so much for months, but then as time passes you may actually get used to the feeling and may stop missing them. It is also possible that you learn to enjoy your life without them.


So as you can see , the cons that long distant relationships offer are more than the pros . Long distant relationships can be very challenging . But then again , it depends from person to person . If you think you can pass all these hurdles and are willing to do anything to make the relationship work , then you should go ahead . If you think the person you are in love with is worth all the pain , it’s worth a try . Best of luck ! I am on trying in my long distance relationship ! So do you ? ;)

I LOVE YOU

I Love You , My SweetHeart !

I love you when you smile at me,
I love it when you frown,
I love you when you say the sweetest things, that makes my heart go up and down.
I love you when you make me angry,
I love you the way to come to say sorry.
I love you the way you make those stupid faces that makes me laugh away to glory.

I love you when you make me laugh,
And even when you make me cry,
I love you 'coz I know you'll be right there with me and help me make my tears dry.

I love it when you look at me
While I'm looking away,
I love you so much 'coz I will never ever love anyone this much ever again.

DEDICATED TO MY LOVED ONE !