Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
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02 February 2012

10 Ways To Strengthen Your Relationship

A relationship is like a little flower . You need to nurture it with care and allow it to blossom to see its beauty . No relationship can survive without joint efforts of both the partners . However , most people get confused on what they should be doing to help the bond between them and their partner grow strong . Here are some ways to strengthen your relationship .

1. Trusting one another

Trusting one another is a basic requirement for every relationship. Trust is a key ingredient for any healthy relationship and without trust, a relationship has no base at all. Despite the world accusing your partner of anything, you should be strong enough to identify, connect and most importantly trust your partner so much that he/she never feels lonely even when the world turns its back. Without trust, there would always be a situation wherein you would find either partner having a doubt about the other one. The constant doubt and suspicion would deepen the cracks in a healthy relationship and ultimately result in a split.

2. Accepting flaws

You must understand that every person on this planet has its positive and negative attributes and your partner is no exception to this rule. Accepting each other’s flaws and mistakes is something that helps you strengthen your bond among yourselves and build a strong and lasting relationship. When you know each other’s positive and negative qualities, it helps the two of you adjust better with each other. Also, when the mistakes are accepted, there is lesser chance that you will constantly criticize your partner about them. Thus, knowing these little things and dealing with them in the course of life is the most effective solution that would help strengthen your bond with your partner.

3. Respect each other

Respect is another aspect of a relationship that cannot be ignored. It is only when you respect one another will the world respect your relationship. Respect is not something that happens overnight. You need to work hard to gain your partner’s respect. When you respect your partner, you place him/her a notch above the rest which in turn makes your partner feel special and results in strengthening your relationship.

4. Give each other space

When couples lose their space in a relationship, they tend to suffocate and ultimately break away from the relationship. Giving each other space to lead lives separate from one another is vital in a relationship. Space means giving each other time to retain individuality and fully trust each other. Space would keep the two you apart for some time yet bind you closer in the relationship.

5. Break predictability

Predictability can act as a silent killer in a relationship. When everything about your relationship is known and out in the open, it gives boredom the scope of creeping in and ruining things. Predictability must be avoided by the two of you. Give occasional surprises to one another by breaking away from routine. Make ways for regular getaways to unexplored places. If nothing, walk down the street right after dinner to get ice-cream. Breaking away from routine is a big stress buster and enhances any relationship for the better.

6. Indulge in activities together

Togetherness can do wonders for a relationship. Being together and trying out new things can be a fun way to spice up your relationship. Whether it is learning a new form of dance or trying to cook a new dish, do these activities together. In the busy schedule of the present lifestyle, seldom do couples get a chance to spend quality time together. The mantra should be to make every moment a memorable one when you are together. This will keep you close to one another and erase any possible chance of boredom in the relationship.

7. Forgive and forget

If you keep holding on to something wrong that your partner must have done, you might end up turning the relationship sour. Rather than holding the feeling, the approach should be to talk to him/her at the right time and then forgive and forget the entire incident. If you can forgive your partner and move on in life, you show to them that nothing is more important to you than the two of being together and this in turn would make sure that the mistake is never repeated again.

8. Keep the spark alive

You need to do very simple things to make sure that your partner wants to keep coming back for more. The romance should always be kept alive between you and your partner otherwise both of you will begin feeling that the love between the two of you is vanishing. Small things go a long way when done in the right manner. Go an extra mile to ensure that your partner feels special. Indulge in love making more frequently. Make your partner your prime focus and make sure that you work accordingly. You would be able to see the change in almost no time.

9. Accept changes

It is rightly said that change is the only thing that remains constant in life. With time, every person has to cope with certain changes. These changes may be both physical as well as emotional. Individuals themselves grapple to cope up with these changes and would find it even more difficult if their partner cannot accept them for who they are. You need to remember that change is a way of life and this change may not be to your partner’s choice. They would need your support and you should constantly assure them that no matter what happens, you still love them for who they are. When a couple accepts these changes together, it makes the bond among them stronger.

 10. Be a team

During every phase, life will be more enjoyable if you work together as a team. If you come across a problem,try and solve it together instead of putting the load on one person. When you know you can count on one another, you have a strong mental connect and a feeling that you are not alone there is someone to support you in times of crisis. Also when you team up together to battle the challenges of daily life, problems will become more bearable as you know you have your partner around to help you.


These little things do not take much of time and they are worth the effort . At the end of the day , if your partner is happy , you will also feel a sense of contentment with your relationship .

24 January 2012

Will a Long Distant Relationship Work For You ?

Before deciding on whether your long distant relationship will work or not , there are some things that you should know about . Long distance relationships are difficult , but like everything else , they have both their pros and cons . And I am the one who in long distance relationship .

Pros 

1. Value Every Moment Spent With Each Other

When you are miles away from each other, you tend to miss each other a lot. Due to this, every moment spent with one other is actually valued. It also makes you realize the importance of your partner in your life. This is an advantage that is not found in people who live with each other. Since, the time you get to spend with each other is limited; every date tends to be a memorable and special experience.

2. Space and Independence

Since it is long distance, you get all the space and independence that other couples don’t seem to get. You have time to spend with yourself. Take this as an opportunity for the generation of a new hobby. You also get more time to concentrate on your ambitions and goals in life.

3. Improve Your Bonding With others

Many times, when in a relationship, couples find it hard to find time for their families and friends. Long distance relationships give you a lot of time to spend with both your families and friends. You don’t need to constantly juggle your time between your partner and the rest of the world.

4. The Distance Brings you Closer

If the bond between a couple is strong, the distance can actually work wonders for the relationship. When you meet every day, you tend to take each other for granted. But, when it is long distance, it will make you realize the other person’s importance in your life.

Cons

1. Loss/ absence of Closeness and Intimacy
Long distance relationships can take the level of closeness and intimacy away from couples. You have to be prepared that, you may not even get to hug your partner for months or sometimes years.

2. Less Economical

Long distance relationships can be really expensive. Traveling often to visit your loved one may cause you to shell out loads of money. Then again, long distance calls are expensive. Finance is one aspect that you will have to constantly monitor.

3. Inability to be there for each other all the time

Most of the time, you cannot expect your partner to be there physically present for you. Sometimes, days may pass when you really need them by your side but the situation will not permit.

4. Difficult to keep the romance alive
At some point in time, continuous phone calls and emails also can get tedious. You may long for the feeling of having your loved one right next to you. Talking on the phone or by some other source of communication cannot be half the fun as talking in person.

5. Involves Lot of Risk
Communicating through sources of media can be very misguiding and can lead to lots of misunderstanding among partners. Absence of physical presence can also lead to difficulty in understanding. Hence, there is always a lot of pressure involved. Even a slight misunderstanding can lead to spoiling the bond that the two of you share.

6. Difficult to Trust

When you are in a long distant relationship it is so easy to lie. All you can do is believe every word they are saying. It may be easy to trust in the beginning. However, as time passes it will get more difficult. Even certain negligence on the part of your partner can lead to you doubting them and vice-versa.

7. Inability To Understand Each Other Better

Talking over the phone or even video conferencing may not always be as effective as meeting personally. It can, comparatively take a lot of time to understand each other’s habits and lifestyle.

8. Chances Of Getting Used To Living Without Each Other

You may miss a person so much for months, but then as time passes you may actually get used to the feeling and may stop missing them. It is also possible that you learn to enjoy your life without them.


So as you can see , the cons that long distant relationships offer are more than the pros . Long distant relationships can be very challenging . But then again , it depends from person to person . If you think you can pass all these hurdles and are willing to do anything to make the relationship work , then you should go ahead . If you think the person you are in love with is worth all the pain , it’s worth a try . Best of luck ! I am on trying in my long distance relationship ! So do you ? ;)